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Bridge Over Troubled Waters

I very much would like to be a bridge for your troubling thoughts, concerns; your relationship with yourself and/or any other ‘troubled waters’ you may be doing your best (just now) to stay afloat in.

These are troubling times. These are the most unknown times I have ever experienced; our world has ever experienced and, most likely, most of you too. 
My goal here has always been to share my truth and thoughts, and in doing so inviting you to feel, open up and experience You living You through self-love.  
You are unique. You are one of a kind.  You are sensational.  You were born this way purposefully.  
We humans feel.  We humans emote. We humans experience wonderful times. We feel rough times. We think which can be troubling in itself.  Ha!  We dream. We create. We spin when all of these things collide, come together and happen at once.  
May you always come back to this moment here and now available through your breath.  
May you come back to the current goal of your very next step.  Bab…

Empath

From the book "Thriving as an Empath" by Judith Orloff


"As I’ve grown as an empath, I can appreciate the gift of being different. I am moved by this anonymous quote: “If you feel you don’t fit into this world, it’s because you’re here to create a better one.” Sensitive people are meant to bring light into the world. Empathy is a strength, not a weakness. I applaud everyone who looks different, feels different, or thinks different. The world needs the difference you will make.

SET YOUR INTENTION I will not buy into any belief that doesn’t affirm the worth of my sensitivity, compassion, and love. I will be empathic in my own life and advocate these values in the world."

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"Still, a big challenge for all sensitive people is how to be compassionate without absorbing the stress of others and the world.  We don't have the same filters as most people.  We are emotional sponges who feel everything and instinctively take it in.  This differs from "ordinary" empathy, where your heart goes out to others in pain or happiness, but you don't take on their feelings.  We empaths are helpers, lovers, and caretakers who often give too much at the expense of our own well-being. Research suggests that our mirror neuron system (a part of the brain responsible for compassion) is hyperactive, which can burn us out.  This is not how I choose to live.  I want to be loving, but overhelping or absorbing someone's distress just puts me on sensory overload, which is painful to my sensitive body and soul.   It also doesn't serve the other person in any lasting way."


Judith Orloff writes beautifully and the information feels true and helpful to me.  

May I offer some (maybe) helpful tips if you feel burned out by caring, doing, giving too much of yourself that you find you have very little to nothing left for yourself; at certain times.  'At certain times' meaning way too often.   Ha.

EVERY time you give out to the world, a situation or another, keep a bit of what you are giving out for yourself.  As you give away 'energy', store some of this energy inside of yourself; each and every time.

PERHAPS, try to picture a bubble around yourself.  A bubble of protection.  Nothing can get in unless you allow it.  You can imagine mirrors on the outside of the bubble facing out as to deflect negative energy from yourself and allow what is happening outside of yourself to be mirrored back to the world, a situation or a person that may be presenting in a way that feels unsupportive and even harsh to you.

NUTURE yourself.  Do something every day just for you.  It can be as simple as taking a moment to just sit and breathe in and out fully and mindfully. to exercise. to a massage, a bath, a dinner or an outing into nature.

TALK kind and loving to yourself.  If you do something that you are proud of, thank yourself.  If you make a mistake, comfort yourself.  If you find yourself being your own worst enemy, begin to be your own best friend.

REST when you are tired.  If you hear yourself saying that you do not have time to rest, then, perhaps, work at a 75% energy level instead of your usual 100%.

ASK for help.  Give someone the opportunity and gift of being able to help and support you from time to time.   Knowing how good you feel when you help 'others', allow 'others' the same feeling of good.

'Empath' is not even in the dictionary.  'Empathy' is "appreciation, compassion and recognition".

If this feels true to you, it feels true to you.  This, much more than a label, can be your guide.

It is a beautiful thing to care, support, give and love another.   It is a really beautiful thing when we care, support, give and love another through a full and supportive 'tank' of same within ourselves.

Magic is the loudest.  Life is the most enjoyable.  Love carries us all.

Light is the brightest.

May you allow your magic, your life, your love and your light to be the loudest and brightest possible; as often as possible.

May  you live in the truth of everything that you are... from a place of inner wisdom and a fulfilled feeling of self-empowerment.    just being U.

                                                  Picture by Rebecca Ilene Photography


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Bridge Over Troubled Waters

I very much would like to be a bridge for your troubling thoughts, concerns; your relationship with yourself and/or any other ‘troubled waters’ you may be doing your best (just now) to stay afloat in.

These are troubling times. These are the most unknown times I have ever experienced; our world has ever experienced and, most likely, most of you too. 
My goal here has always been to share my truth and thoughts, and in doing so inviting you to feel, open up and experience You living You through self-love.  
You are unique. You are one of a kind.  You are sensational.  You were born this way purposefully.  
We humans feel.  We humans emote. We humans experience wonderful times. We feel rough times. We think which can be troubling in itself.  Ha!  We dream. We create. We spin when all of these things collide, come together and happen at once.  
May you always come back to this moment here and now available through your breath.  
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Stillness

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When you find yourself in stillness, may you be aware of what is going on inside of you...

Are you in a loving, kind and/or open to ease place...

Are you freaked, anxious, worried and/or stressed...

Perhaps, an assortment of feels is what shows up.

May you let full, compassionate breathing in your stillness; as much and as often as possible.

In our mindful stillness, we heal.

In our physical stillness, the earth heals.

In stillness, awareness has the greatest chance to be present.

In awareness and stillness, we can birth new ways for who we want to be going forward; what we want the world to be.

May you be/give the present of stillness.... when possible.

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May you offer harmony and unity between what is going on within yourself and what you are showing and sharing on the outside of You.

This has been my goal for as long as I can remember.   This just may be vulnerability at its depth.

As we show the world our dreams, desires, feelings and truthful emotions, we open ourselves to possible ridicule, misunderstanding, judgment and out right being laughed at or anger, madness and/or hurt coming straight at us.

Ouch.  Hide. Surrender.  Change.   Apologize...

These are things that would penetrate my being and have me believing that I was wrong, bad, hurtful and or too much to handle; too sensitive.

I am learning that if attacked or being on the receiving end of anger or a verbal ‘beat down'...   These attacks have nothing to do with who I am and the open loving truth that is me.   They have everything to do with the person and what is going on inside the person on the defensive and what feels ugly and unlovely to me.  

Ouch.   It stays.

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